Addictions and mental-health scholar Rhiana Guerra and automotive-service technician Tristan De Rushe’s love story started on-line, all the way in which again once they have been highschool youngsters. They have been e-introduced on Skype in 2009 by De Rushe’s cousin Brendan, who went to the identical faculty as Guerra. Brendan thought they could hit it off because of their mutual love of images.
Tristan was smitten instantly. His opening line? “I’m gonna marry you sometime.”
And 11 years later, De Rushe did simply that.
Since De Rushe lived in Scarborough and Guerra in Whitby, they received to know one another over the following few years through video chat and immediate message. Regardless of De Rushe’s preliminary proclamation, there wasn’t a lot romance initially, however they grew to become finest pals, speaking for hours at a time about all the things from De Rushe’s love of basic “SpongeBob SquarePants” episodes to Rhiana’s burgeoning Tumblr presence.
Due to the gap, they didn’t meet one another in individual for 3 years, when Guerra bumped into him at a grocery store by her home in 2012. It felt a bit like destiny, contemplating he lived nowhere close to there (he was on the retailer with the identical cousin who launched them on-line all these years earlier). Guerra thought, “This have to be real love, as a result of my mother and father met in a grocery store, too.”
This time, the spark was fast and De Rushe requested Guerra to hang around IRL ultimately. “Our first date ever was a images date. He was like, ‘Let me present you a few of my tips,’” Guerra says. They frolicked day by day for per week straight. On the final day, De Rushe requested her to be his girlfriend. She stated sure, and their journey started, crammed with enjoyable dinner dates and a Niagara Falls trip each Valentine’s Day.
In 2018, De Rushe executed Guerra’s dream proposal. After shopping for the ring a 12 months and a half earlier than, he plotted learn how to pop the query at Guerra’s most popular spot: Caribana. De Rushe managed to get down on one knee – proper in the course of the parade. “She noticed the ring and didn’t know what to do,” he says with fun. “We really went viral. Any individual else noticed, began filming, and we have been featured on 6ixBuzz.”
The marriage scheduled for fall 2020, they determined to go forward mid-pandemic with a smaller visitor listing after which have a second, greater ceremony as soon as restrictions eased up the next 12 months. Fortunately, Guerra had scored a lot of the issues they wanted for marriage ceremony primary pre-lockdown, together with Mr. and Mrs. Skeleton décor and De Rushe’s handmade arch and cake stand.
Their held the primary marriage ceremony on the Ajax waterfront, at Carruthers Marsh Pavilion – the place Guerra had as soon as spent a summer time serving ice cream – with simply 17 of their dearest in attendance, plus a photographer. The couple had a sand ceremony, wherein they every poured a special color of sand right into a vase. “Now it’s a bit of artwork in our home,” Guerra says. “Though [the sands] have been two totally different colors, as soon as they’re collectively, it’s unattainable to separate them.”
“I cried, I’m so sappy. I actually loved that marriage ceremony,” De Rushe says. “The small quantity of individuals made the nerves a bit simpler.”
Fortunately, by the point their second marriage ceremony rolled round in fall 2021, at Twist Gallery, he was well-prepared for an even bigger head depend of 52. Having the marriage on Queen Road West was necessary to Guerra as that’s the place she and De Rushe frolicked on their first date. Throughout this ceremony, they carried out a broom-jumping ritual to honour their ancestors. “My granny actually wished us to leap the broom the 12 months earlier than,” Guerra says, “as a result of throughout slavery, they might bounce the broom to indicate marriage.”
It was at this marriage ceremony they have been lastly allowed a DJ, too, letting them boogie the evening away. “I danced the whole evening,” Guerra says, “from when the dance ground opened, till it closed at 2 a.m.”
All the marriage speeches referenced De Rushe’s legendary ardour for SpongeBob – one thing that Guerra thinks bodes effectively for an extended and pleased marriage. “Everybody stored speaking about SpongeBob, and his aunt made a extremely good level that when Tristan loves, he loves one thing laborious,” she says. “When he loves you, he loves you ceaselessly.”
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Wedding ceremony No. 1
Photographer Natalie Prus Images
Officiant Hazel Shanks
Costume store Norma Reed
Venue Carruthers Marsh Pavilion
Wedding ceremony No. 2
Photographer Natalie Prus Images
Videographer Yuri Rabin Videography
Officiant Hazel Shanks
DJ Golden DjQ
Costume store Mona Richie
Costume designer Enzoani
Make-up artist Darlin Castillo
Venue Twist Gallery
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